DEAR DEIDRE: I FOOLED round sexually with my half-sister once we have been children and now we’re in love.
Whereas I do know it’s frowned upon for a brother and sister to have intercourse, I’m unsure how lengthy we are able to cease ourselves.
I’m 29 and he or she’s 28. We didn’t develop up collectively as our dad and mom divorced after I was 5.
We share the identical dad however our mums are totally different. Once they break up, I stayed with dad and he or she lived together with her mum.
After I was 15 and he or she was 14, we met at a household social gathering. Whereas the adults talked downstairs, we snuck upstairs to hearken to music.
We’d additionally stolen some alcohol from downstairs and drank it collectively.
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As we have been each youngsters, with raging hormones, and drunk, one factor led to a different.
We didn’t have full intercourse however we did every little thing else. It was so intense, perhaps partly as a result of we knew it was unsuitable.
We by no means spoke about it afterwards and, as she lived on the different finish of the nation, didn’t see one another for years. However we stored in contact on Fb and have become shut buddies.
Neither of us has had a passable or severe romantic relationship as adults, and once we met final 12 months, we realised why.
The attraction we really feel for one another is stronger than something we’ve ever felt for anybody else. She’s my soulmate and says she feels the identical.
We nonetheless haven’t had intercourse, however we’ve got had foreplay, and it’s getting tougher to withstand going additional.
However we each understand it’s in opposition to the regulation as a result of she’s my half-sister.
The factor is, I don’t consider her as a sister, however as a lover. I need to be together with her for ever. I need to marry her and have infants together with her.
Why is that this so unsuitable? Our love wouldn’t hurt anybody else.
How can we be collectively?
DEIDRE SAYS: Shut relations who haven’t grown up collectively can really feel a powerful attraction after they meet as adults. However that doesn’t imply it’s OK to have intercourse together with your sister.
It’s nonetheless thought to be incest, which suggests it’s in opposition to the regulation. You could possibly each go to jail if anybody came upon and reported you to the police.
You’ll be able to by no means marry. And as for youths, it is a unhealthy concept, as there’s a better danger of genetic abnormality and incapacity.
You must cease sleeping together with your sister and get some counselling that will help you overcome your emotions.
My help pack on Counselling will inform you learn how to entry this.
